Scenario 1: You're working late. You have a deadline and a boss that will figuratively kill you should you not make that deadline. You're grinding away, and because you're a decent person you duly inform your significant other that you will be home late and that they shouldn't wait up for you. In the meantime, unbeknownst to you, they have prepared a surprise romantic dinner, which will now simply be food drying out in the oven until you get home. You finally arrive home, and you find your significant other pouting on the couch. Of course, should you dare ask what's wrong, you will not get a straight answer. No no no, you have to now guess why they're upset. And an argument might ensue.
Scenario 2: You're schedule has thrown you for a loop and you haven't been able to enjoy the social life you had a mere couple of months ago. Your friends invite you to social gatherings but you often can't make it due to a myriad of reasons. Your friends understand at first, but then slowly they start to resent the fact that you can't make it to the party.They remain your friends, and they love you, but they are slightly miffed.
Both of the above illustrate how, we as people, take it personally and seriously when those important to us don't or can't cater to our needs as we would like it. And it happens without exception. It happens in both romantic and platonic relationships. It happens in families and between friends. It happens at work, between colleagues. It's part of the human condition. But it is something that has increased in recent years due to the fact that we live in an instant gratification, short attention span society. Patience is a virtue the world as a whole no longer possesses. And it is something that we need to address in a pro-active manner, and we can all start with the little things, such as the following:
- Do not bite your waiter's head off if you're entree is taking ten minutes longer than expected. The food is the responsibility of the chef. If it becomes unreasonably delayed, calmly request the presence of the manger and complain to him, still NOT biting anyone's head off.
- Do not throw call signs and shake fists in the middle of rush hour. EVERYONE is tired, they all wish to get home in one piece and if you can't take a detour, put on some nice music and relax on the drive home. If a taxi cuts you, do not hoot and shout, simply ask your passenger, if you have one, to take down the car's call sign and then calmly report the reckless driver to the authorities.
- Do not tap your foot in an irritating manner if you're standing in a line, whether at the store, the bank or the ATM. Rather take a breath, put on some music on your phone or mp3 player and and enjoy your own personal soundtrack to life. Alternatively, invest in a Gameboy or PSP and play games while you wait. Life's too short to be annoyed.
- Don't take it as a personal affront if a loved one is late. Simply point out to them in a nice way that it's not the best manners to display by being late, and that if everyone is on time, then there's that much more time for doing the fun things you want to do together.
Essentially, at the end of the day, you want to enjoy your life and not feel as if your rushing through it. Remember, the final destination is death, and do you REALLY want to get there THAT quickly? Enjoy the journey. After all, what's chasing you?